Anonymous asked this question on 5/5/2000:

Dear Dove, I am in a bad spot. My children have been away and when they got home from their grammies house, I had a blackeye from my husband. I have been hurt before but not this bad. Should I tell my kids what happened? They are 7 and 8. They are asking questions.

DoveWingsT gave this response on 5/5/2000:

Dear Anonymous:

Telling your children depends on how well they will accept it and how mature they are. At that age children are not stupid. I am going to assume that this abuse does not happen only when the childen are away?

Either way its time to ask youself this questions. How long am I going to continue to live like this.

Also covering up your abusers actions are only helping him to do it again. They feel they get away with it enough you wont tell. So they continue.

Your husband needs to seek professional help and you need to seek support also. If you two love each other then you need to see how unhealthy this is for your children.

Dove

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