Anonymous asked this question on 5/5/2000:

how do do you know what the diffence type of abuses are? I feel like im floundering

DoveWingsT gave this response on 5/5/2000:

Using Intimidation Making you afraid by using looks, actions, gestures, smashing things, destroying your property, abusing pets, displaying weapons

Using Emotional Abuse Putting you down, making you feel bad about yourself, calling you names, making you think your crazy, playing mind games, humiliating you, making you feel guilty.

Using Isolation Controls what you do, who you sees and talks to, what you read, limiting your outside involvement, using jealousy to justify actions.

Minimizing, Denying and Blaming Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse didn't happen, shifting responsibility for abusive behavior, saying you caused it.

Using Children Making you feel guilty about the children, using the children to relay messages, using visitation to harass you, threatening to take the children away.

Using Male/Female Privilege Treating you like a servant, making all the big decisions, acting like the "master or queen ruler of the house, being the one to define men's and women's roles.

Using Economic Abuse Preventing you from getting or keeping a job, making you ask for money, giving you an allowance, taking your money, not letting you know about or have access to family income.

Using Coercion and Threats Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt you, threatening to leave you or to commit suicide, to report you to welfare, making you drop charges, making you do illegal things

DoveWingsT gave this follow-up answer on 5/5/2000:

THE EFFECTS OF ABUSE

What are the effects of domestic abuse on women?

Some of the effects women suffer include feelings of helplessness, fear, anger, depression, shame, isolation, and low self-worth. Apart from the direct injuries caused by an assault, long-term physical effects include fatigue, body aches, headaches, and tension.

What are the effects on men who abuse?

Since men are usually the aggressors in domestic abuse, it may seem they escape its negative effects. This is not true. Men who abuse destroy the quality of both their family life and relationships by destroying trust and instilling fear in their partners and children.

What are the effects on children?

Children are always affected by witnessing or hearing domestic abuse. They often feel scared, anxious, angry, and responsible for the abuse. Witnessing abuse interferes with children's ability both to learn in school and to form healthy relationships. From abusive role models, children are conditioned either to abuse or to be abused.

DoveWingsT gave this follow-up answer on 5/5/2000:

THE EFFECTS OF ABUSE

What are the effects of domestic abuse on women?

Some of the effects women suffer include feelings of helplessness, fear, anger, depression, shame, isolation, and low self-worth. Apart from the direct injuries caused by an assault, long-term physical effects include fatigue, body aches, headaches, and tension.

What are the effects on men who abuse?

Since men are usually the aggressors in domestic abuse, it may seem they escape its negative effects. This is not true. Men who abuse destroy the quality of both their family life and relationships by destroying trust and instilling fear in their partners and children.

What are the effects on children?

Children are always affected by witnessing or hearing domestic abuse. They often feel scared, anxious, angry, and responsible for the abuse. Witnessing abuse interferes with children's ability both to learn in school and to form healthy relationships. From abusive role models, children are conditioned either to abuse or to be abused.

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