huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

Jason4U22 gave this response on 5/5/2000:

This guy your living with that has continued to abuse you isn't going to change unless he gets some sort of counceling. I have heard this several times.( I will never hit you again), and it usualy ends up being a lie. As for you, I think you need counceling also. No one has the right to lay there hands on you, and I mean no one. My opinion you have made a mistake by moving back in with this guy. As in trust, he has to earn his trust. Did he grow up in an abusive home? If so that could explain some of his behaviour, but it's still no excuse. If he isn't trying to get help for himself after you suggest it, then leave. This is a illness, that needs to be treated. He doesn't know how to express his anger, so he just uses you as a punching bag. Dont put up with this crap. I wish you luck, and keep me posted.

Jason4U22

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