Anonymous asked this question on 5/5/2000:
Is it possible for a man to also be abused?
DoveWingsT gave this response on 5/5/2000:
Dear Men Abused!
YES!!! n the eyes of the law, a male victim of domestic violence faces two hurdles; firstly to prove he is a victim, and secondly, to ensure that his children are protected and do not become the new victims. Men will remain in an abusive relationship, remain silent for the sake and protection of his children.
Men react just like women, by staying silent. Often this silence is encouraged by factors such as fear of ridicule and, the realization that it is unlikely his partner will be or can be evicted from the FAMILY dwelling. Even when facts that a man has proved he is the victim it seems his only course of action is to leave the home. It s is usually he is then separated from his children and often experiences difficulty in obtaining and regular contact with them. The male victim is usually treated like the criminal and not the victim.
Domestic Violence in Washington: 25,473 Men a Year According to a Nov. 1998 Department of Justice report on the National Violence Against Women Survey, 1,510,455 women and 834,732 men are victims of physical violence by an intimate. In Washington, that's 42,824 women and 25,473 men. That includes 2,754 on whom a knife was used, 5,508 threatened with a knife and 11,016 hit with an object. Here are the data.
National Violence Against Women survey shows 37.5% of victims each year are men. Men are at real risk of serious physical injury.
Usually men will do anything in the hope of stopping the abuse. What most men like women, fail to do is record the incidents, injuries or pattern of events. They neglect to tell any family members of the situation and will make excuses for their injuries even vrhen they attend the doctor. They fear the humiliation and we must change this.
Domestic Violence is not prejudice to whom its victim is, like women men are victims to. We must stop and realize that male victims like females come from all walks of life and different back grounds. Become depressed due to stereo types of society. When society says well your bigger than her, why don't you just leave, etc., etc. Battered men is truly the hidden side of domestic violence.
HOW MEN GENERALLY COPE WITH ABUSE 1. They Don't Tell 2. They take on the Macho Man I can handle it attitude. 3. They hide from it and hope it will stop.
What if you've been battered? Do not ignore it. Talk about it. Tell someone. Realize that you're not the only one, there are a lot of other men are in the same situation. And you must break the silence now! "DON'T BE A VICTIM ANY LONGER"
HOT LINE NUMBER FOR BATTERED MEN The Washington State Domestic Violence Hotline is: 1-800-562-6025
They can direct you to a local shelter. Have a pencil and paper handy before you call, and take notes. The DSHS Program Manager says that the programs are, by law, to be gender-neutral and offer services to men as well as women.
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Thank you for letting me know I am not insane