Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

Jason4U22 gave this response on 5/5/2000:

Sweetheart,

To overcome these problems that you have your going to have to seek counceling. I wish I had an answer for you, but I would have to fly out where you live. I think that you at least need to see a councelor 2 times a week, and get into some support groups, like victims of rape, and abuse. You need to pick up the phone right now, and call the police, and tell them what he did. You did nothing wrong, you were powerless over this man. I don't suggest that you see him anymore. He deserves to do jail time. Remember you wasn't a pertisapant in this, so how could it be your fault? It's not. This is going to take some one on one counceling, and your not really going to be able to get the help that you need here. I do however encourage you to come her for advise, but the most important thing is that you go get counceling, I just can't stress that enough. I wish you luck. Remember this jerk is a sicko, and needs to be behind bars. Take your life back. Don't let him destroy you. It is normal to feel the things you are feeling, and a councelor, and a support group can help you get through this.

Jason4U22

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