Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

Eaglet gave this response on 5/4/2000:

I am so happy that you relized that he was wrong and you got out of that relationship!! That is the first step...

First of all, you were 16 and he was 26 why were you with him?

He had no right to do to you what he did and it was wrong... Did you report it?

I have the same problem about relationships and stuff.... Are you in counseling? That will help. You need to deal with the pain, guilt and shame that is there from the rape and the abuse, once you have delt with those and start to heal, your problems with relationships will get better...Not all guys are like those that you have been involved in, there are some very sweet and loving men out there, you just have to find the right one.

I don't like to be touched or anything either, by ANY one, not even my FEMALE pastors, but, as I have been dealing with the abuse and the rapes, it has gotten better, and I have been able to except their hugs and things..so hang in there, get the help and start dealing with the past..it will get better!!

Let me know how things go please..

SerenaFair@hotmail.com

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