Anonymous asked this question on 5/1/2000:

I have a boyfriend who very rarely will pinch, hit and hurt me for no reason. i dont get bruised or anything though. i think he thinks that i want to wrestle or sumptin, but when i wrestle i dont hurt others that much. but after he does this he will kiss what he hurt better. he also sometimes calls me names for no reason. is this abuse?? if it is what can i do?? i dont want to leave him becasue i think i know why hes like this, his father used to hit his mother and him. and ive been with him for a very long time. what can i do to make him stop?? please help

littlesneak gave this response on 5/2/2000:

Abuse is a learned behavior.. This could be the start of the storm. Abuse comes in many forms some more obvious then others. The name calling for no reason is verbal abuse... No man should put a finger on ;you regardless never mind for no reason at all. I can understand what you say about not leaving him but he is responsible for his own actions not his parents. I would step back and think about how much this relationship means to you and start by knowing that there is consequences for his actions..

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