Anonymous asked this question on 5/1/2000:

I have a boyfriend who very rarely will pinch, hit and hurt me for no reason. i dont get bruised or anything though. i think he thinks that i want to wrestle or sumptin, but when i wrestle i dont hurt others that much. but after he does this he will kiss what he hurt better. he also sometimes calls me names for no reason. is this abuse?? if it is what can i do?? i dont want to leave him becasue i think i know why hes like this, his father used to hit his mother and him. and ive been with him for a very long time. what can i do to make him stop?? please help

Patti_Ja gave this response on 5/2/2000:

It is obvious that you really love your boyfriend and it is good that you understand why he does these things to you...which by the way are abuse and I believe that you are right it probably is the result of his dad hitting his mother and him...it is also obvious that you are not going to leave him...not now...so I want to tell you what you are in for...first of all just because you know why this happens does not make it stop...hasn't yet has it?...and just because you want it to stop it won't...hasn't yet has it?...and just because you love him and he loves you does not mean that he will not hurt you and when he does it does not mean that you will not feel like someone is kicking you in the stomache...even if it was your eyes he blacked and not your stomache he kicked...and just because it hurts him to do these things does not mean that he does not need help to stop...or that he will stop...until one day he can't stop...and you can't leave

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