Anonymous asked this question on 5/1/2000:

I have a boyfriend who very rarely will pinch, hit and hurt me for no reason. i dont get bruised or anything though. i think he thinks that i want to wrestle or sumptin, but when i wrestle i dont hurt others that much. but after he does this he will kiss what he hurt better. he also sometimes calls me names for no reason. is this abuse?? if it is what can i do?? i dont want to leave him becasue i think i know why hes like this, his father used to hit his mother and him. and ive been with him for a very long time. what can i do to make him stop?? please help

MARTIE gave this response on 5/1/2000:

Hi It is a type of abuse.If you really want to make it with him you have to be the one that stops it,let him know it hurts and bothers you,the name is calling is just as bad.Because he has lived this in the past it is very important to get you both help,ask him if he would be willing to a counselor if you cant talk to him.If this doesn't help then you need to take other steps to better your life..I have a website that has allot of these issues as well as others..Martie

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