Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

Serenitey gave this response on 5/1/2000:

I know exactly how you feel. It is going to take lots of time to feel comfortable enough to trust someone again. Especially to feel comfortable in an intimate way. I too was raped, that was my first sexual experience, and for years I thought of sex as awful. When i finally did have a serious boyfriend, I just slept with him because I didn't want to be forced. I was with him for 4 yrs and never liked sex, he was very emotionally abusive also. You need to get out of your current relationship, and you need to talk to anyone, someone about your rape. It will help, I know it is hard. I am 25 now, and still have a hard time talking about when i was raped and i was 16 at the time. You just need to give yourself time to heal. Don't worry about getting involved with anyone right now. Just worry about dealing with your emotional scars. Not only, from your ex, but from the other one that raped you. Taking time off, and just being alone, will help you immensley. You need time to think and time to heal. Hope this was some help.

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