Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

Terry44 gave this response on 4/30/2000:

Hi Friend, First let me say its not your fault!! These guys were creaps!! There are many kind, good men out there. I think what you need to look at is and beware of is what it is that attracted you to them in the first place and change that. It may take counseling. It may not. I was in a sick relationship when I was 18 years old too. So I know it can happen. I liked the controlling type but I did not like the abuse!! So I got out. Unfortuantly the control and abuse often go together. I beleive that you need to work on yourself and build your self-esteem so that you will value yourself and realize that no one should be allowed to devalue you in any manner. You are a beautiful person that needs to be treated royally. Often, this stuff is in our subconcious, childhood stuff, so you may need a counselour. Otherwise, you may be dealing with this crap for along time, when in reality, if you seek help from a good counselor you may get beyond it early. Good luck little sister.

The average rating for this answer is 4.