Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

sharpurcell gave this response on 4/29/2000:

Men who abuse us would like for us to believe that we have no one but them, that way we must face their abuse alone and they break us down to where we're not strong enough to do that. You need to stay completely away from people who mistreat you. I know it's hard because you want to believe them when they tell you that they have changed and their so different now, but their usually not. Maybe even worse than they were before. How old are you now? Where are your parents? Do you have a counselor? I suggest that you get one whom you feel comfortable with and tell them everything. He wants you to believe that you are no one with him, but that is ridiculous. He is jealous of you, that's why he says these dreadful things. You probably have a lot more going on than he does and he feels inferior so he has to attack you. Get away from him and stay away from him, no matter what he says or does. These guys can turn on the tears better than any soap opera actress! Let me know what happens, be careful!

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