huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

Munkeysue gave this response on 4/28/2000:

Hi there, l say no way, dont take him back, dont trust him, once an abuser always an abuser, l dont care what the REAL experts say. l too took my x back, countless times, always thinking.. *okay, this time will be different l know it* yeah right.. for my 16th birthday, l got a good beating.. and then beatings just cause he felt like it, l left sure, he made promises, but as soon as l was back, another beating for leaving.. he got counceling.. for yrs, and it didnt help.. l can tell you some reall horror stories about my boyfriend and his so called love.. and broken promises, but l was a sucker and took him back, but finally got away for good, and even l still to this day, look over my shoulder, lm still afraid, but lm stronger than him, l know that now.. and learned it the hard way! Please, dont take him back, dont trust him, trust me, it only gets worse!

All the best to you! l hope you make the right decision!

M.sue

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