Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

MARTIE gave this response on 4/28/2000:

Hi I just want to say I know what you feel about being touched.I too suffered this for yrs for the same reason,I remarried but still had the problem for along time.I started counseling and it helped me so much,I still cant feel like I am being held down.But my husband knows the problem and has been there helping me,if you are in a relationship it is important he plays a big part in your feelings.It really does help to have a counselor guide you,I hope I have helped.Martie

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