Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

payasa gave this response on 4/28/2000:

hi sad girl i am so sorry this had happened to you i would not wish that on anybody i can truly say i understand what you went through because i went through it too and i have to say give it some time you will never forget what has happened to you and it will take a while but there will be a time when you will feel easier around people you see i was with my sons father for two years and he beat me everyday of those two years i also felt it was my fault and that he would not hit me if i would do what he said i also have been raped 5 times and after the times i was raped i was so scared even of my father but you will soon see a time when you will start to trust again just give yourself some time to heal also it does help to talk about things even if you just write down how you are feeling in a journal it will help and always remember God will never let you go through anything you cannot handle

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