Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:
I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com
debbie34 gave this response on 4/28/2000:
sagirl,
Let me start off by saying {That you have someone you can ALWAYS talk to ME!}
It sounds like to me that you have had nothing but bad relationships and that in its self is bad. It is VERY hard to break out of this cycle once your in it. Because you seem to attract these kinds of men kinds of men. What you need is selfconfidence, and for some people its threw friends and family and others have to get professional help.
I have been where you are and to be honest with you i started out with professional help and it helped some, but i got my {most }support from friends and family, they were the ones that saw me in real life not in a room listining to me talk, they really knew me and really cared, they knew what my weeknesses were and they helped me threw them.
Please dont get me wrong professional help is GREAT for some people {like the people that dont have family or friends that can give you the extra time you need to keep your self together}.
Once you have built up your self you will feel better about you and will be able to trust your judgement about other men. There are ALOT of men out there that is waiting for a loving and careing women just like you, you have alot to offer and so do they :-)
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!! AND IF EVER YOU NEED A KIND WORD OR JUST SOMEONE TO TALK TO PLEASE WRITE ME< I CAN BECOME YOUR NEW BEST FRIEND. If you need one, and if need be i will give you my aol address
Debbie
Sagirl2005 asked this follow-up question on 4/28/2000:
can u please give me your aol adress? send it to sagirl2005@aol.com
debbie34 gave this response on 4/28/2000:
SURE NO PROBLEM :-)
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