Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

Vasanth_Suri gave this response on 4/28/2000:

Its thrilling to have boy friend for a girl and a girl friend for a boy.Here the limitation is friendship.It should stay there.Parents also will have confidence on children.If friendship turns into love, its essential to judge the age of the lovers involved.Should never meet in private.Parents love it.Its safe.Never become involved in physical relationship.Its no love before marriage.It also means that both of them are eager to explore each other out of curiosity and nothing else.So why go to such an extent? Keep the first kiss reserved for the marriage and you would realise the importance.Never cry over the spilt milk.A stitch in time saves nine. The best and the easiest way to understand if the other person is loving or not 'is to judge whether he/she is advancing towards gaining pleasure or advancing towards understanding you as a person to live with'.If the former is true, pl stop it then and there itself with out thinking.If the later is true then,no one need to guide you.

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