Sagirl2005 asked this question on 4/27/2000:

I was absused by my ex boyfriend. He would hit,punch,kick me and throw me down stairs. He would tell me things like I dont have anyone but him,and that without him Im no one. For a while I believed this, but I realized that I didnt need him or his abuse. I was also raped by an ex. I was 16 he was 26. I said no,but he pressed harder against me forcing me to cry and rither in pain.I broke up with him two weeks later. We stopped talking for a while,then we hung out one day. It happened again. I'm am scared of being in a relationship,I scared of being touched,kissed,held,because when I think of that it reminds me of him. Can someone please help me?If so please e-mail me Sagirl2005@aol.com

earthmother gave this response on 4/27/2000:

Do not be in a hurry. All injury, both physical and emotional takes time to heal and sometimes leaves scars. The scars are what make you grow and become wiser. Please learn from this experience! Do not put yourself in the position in the first place where bad things can happen to you. If someone hurts you once like that, then why go give him another chance to do it again? All men are not like that. You know that. The emotional pain should fade after time.Just be more careful who you hang around with. Other than that, the only advice I can give is, if you really can't get past this after a reasonable amount of time-(even as much as a year) then go talk to a good councellor

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