Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

zenobra1 gave this response on 4/25/2000:

The best thing you could ever do for yourself and your ex is to break all contact with him. Get a restraining order or order of protection and stick to it. If he tries to contact you call the police. My ex stalked and terrorized me for 18 months and if I knew everything then I know now. I would have never spoke the first word to him afer I left. It seemed as if by allowing him contact with me even if it was negative contact, he was happy no matter how miserable I was. when in some way it made him happy to see me suffer. As if only he got some sort of personal satisfation out of making me angry. If you havent cut all ties possible with this man, as long as you let him get to you he will. Thow his butt in jail again, again, again and again if you have to. Good Luck

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