Anonymous asked this question on 4/19/2000:

Is it ever o.k. to have someone hit you? I know it is a stupid question but it's like I know certain things are going to piss my boyfriend off but sometimes I feel like I should be able to do whatever I want. I know that if I talk back or cuss at him that he might slap me in my mouth but sometimes I still do it.Does that make since? And the other stupid part is have the time I find myself saying sorry for him hitting me. I'm not stupid, actully I'm a straigt A college student. I even tell myself that I'm not going to do anything to piss him off but sometimes I still do. Don't tell me to get away from him, because I love him and I feel lonely without him but I just want him to treat me better. I want him to stop yelling at me, I don't like being scared of my boyfriend and I hate that almost everyone knows that he has hit me before. But I do not want to loss him. I don't think he would ever hurt me hurt me. Maybe scare me leave a couple of marks but not kill me. I know it sounds stupid but I really do believe it's true. They say you can't change those who don't want to be changed so what can I do to make it right?

romeo2188 gave this response on 4/25/2000:

I was in this similar situation and I will tell you this, it doesn't get any better, only worse. I loved my boyfreind and thought that I could help him but the truth was he had to help himself first. Try counseling yet? This is a good place to start. If he will not go with you, try going alone first because chances are you have lost your self esteem somewhat and you have to get that back first than try to see if he will go, he will if he loves you, and if that doesn't happen you should try to move on with your life. It is very hard believe me know one knows that better than me, but you can find a way to and you will meet somebody else. Some times loves not enough, listen to that song and you will find your way. Romeo2188

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