kandik asked this question on 4/25/2000:
i did recieve your response but only by you forwarding it. Maybe there is a special way to retrieve private answers. If there is can you share this with me at my e-mail address. Your answers were very thorough.Maybe it wasn't exactly what I was looking for but at the same time it was helpful. I would rather have the blantin truth rather than just want I want to hear. As far as reporting the crime. I was in a marriage that I thought was wonderful. I had been with him for 5 years (married for 1 1/2) at the time. One day my youngest daughter (age 7 at the time) came to me and said that he hurt her. I asked how-she was scarred-but she told me that he touched her and it hurt. I from there took my oldest daughter aside (11 at the time) without her even knowing that her little sister had said anything to me. I asked her if he had ever done anything to make her feel uncomfortable. She then broke down in tears and said "yes". I questioned her further and got the disgusting details (some of them). I was in complete shock (never doubting my children). My whole world was being ripped right out from under me. It felt like he had suddenly died. I through him out of the house. Of course when confronted he denied it. I confronted him with my children at my side-he still denied it. I then reported this to children and youth. That was the first place that came to mind at this time for us to get help. I found out that when he later tried to contact me by phone and I told him to get help (mentally) he went to the physchiatrist office and confessed to a counselor-the same one I saw. Now why can't the courts use this confession? When I asked this they said those records where privilaged. At this time of reporting to CYS i relied on them to report this to the police. They never did. It was all handled through the DA's office. Does this sound right? kandi kelley
d_ottr gave this response on 4/25/2000:
The information you received from these people is exactly correct, unfortunately. The privileged conversations between doctors, attorneys, SPOUSES, and clergy are protected by law. These recipients can not by law be compelled to give up any conversations, texts, recordings, records, etc. concerning their contacts with the suspect/accused. Imagine if police or defense attorneys could access your medical records, attorney conversations, confessions at church, and so forth.. This would provide these people with information to impeach just about any testimony you could provide. It is just one of those things that is a double edged sword. Each person needs a confidant, and the Constitution protects these confidants. Sad, but true......
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