Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

trii gave this response on 4/25/2000:

There is nothing you can do to help him. It is not your job to help him either. Only he can help himself. That being said, the first thing you should do is call the police and ask how to get a restraining order put on him so that he can't harm you again. The only person you can help is yourself. As for his suicide threats, that is just another way he tries to control you. If he truly wants to end his life, there is nothing you can do about it and you ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE for his actions. People can blame you all they want, but his life is his responsibility alone, not yours. His behavior is typical of an abuser. I've been there, I know. My ex did the same things until I had him thrown in jail. Now he's happily tourturing someone else.

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