Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

kruck gave this response on 4/24/2000:

It seems as though your husbands anger has escalated. I can see you are honest about this situation. I would suggest therapy for you and your family. I am surprised you have not gone for a restraining order. Have you concidered this option? I too faced a long time of abuse, and torment from my ex. The he won't let go thing made me go for a restraining order. It sure sounds to me that this maybe the step you need to take. Have you talked to an attorney? The progam I would suggest is an anger management program. But to be honest with you, I doubt he will go. He did not even give a therapist a chance. Don't you think he just does what you want to get you back? He may need alot, but you are not putting yourself in a good position to help him. You need to help yourself first. If you are not sure where you should go try a womens shelter in your area, and get a restraining order for your own protection, and your children.

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