Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

earthmother gave this response on 4/23/2000:

you sound like you are still emotionally attached to the situation. yes he needs help but lots of times trying to help is not really helpful.he needs to scrape bottom and then either sink or swim. make sure to report every incidence to the proper authorities to get it all on paper. get a "peace bond" to keep him away from you. as long as you appear to be listening he will continue to manipulate. be firm as if you were talking to a 12 year old and make him understand that no means no. be a rock.

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