Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

Terry44 gave this response on 4/22/2000:

He is using you. If you truly are finished with him then I suggest that you get a restraining order from him immediately. My ex did basically the same type of stuff(not quite as drastic) as long as I was giving him the attention that he craved, but as soon as I stopped then he finally gave up trying to involve me in his affairs. He is NOT YOUR PROBLEM ANY LONGER so cut the ties immediately and get on with your own life. I would suggest counseling immediately. This man has warped your mind. You should have NOTHING to do with him or his family, you should know that by yourself unless your a teenager. Good luck

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