Anonymous asked this question on 4/19/2000:

Is it ever o.k. to have someone hit you? I know it is a stupid question but it's like I know certain things are going to piss my boyfriend off but sometimes I feel like I should be able to do whatever I want. I know that if I talk back or cuss at him that he might slap me in my mouth but sometimes I still do it.Does that make since? And the other stupid part is have the time I find myself saying sorry for him hitting me. I'm not stupid, actully I'm a straigt A college student. I even tell myself that I'm not going to do anything to piss him off but sometimes I still do. Don't tell me to get away from him, because I love him and I feel lonely without him but I just want him to treat me better. I want him to stop yelling at me, I don't like being scared of my boyfriend and I hate that almost everyone knows that he has hit me before. But I do not want to loss him. I don't think he would ever hurt me hurt me. Maybe scare me leave a couple of marks but not kill me. I know it sounds stupid but I really do believe it's true. They say you can't change those who don't want to be changed so what can I do to make it right?

Eaglet gave this response on 4/22/2000:

First off, NO it is never ok for anyone to hit another person for ANY reason!!!!!!! Second, you do need to get away from him, and the fact that you can't "live with out him" shows me that it is a codepenant relationship, which isn't good for either one of you. Third, He needs to go to some counseling sessions, maybe an anger management class. Fourth, you need to get into counseling also, not only to deal with what is going on now, but to see why you are so unwilling to leave the relationship and so forth, maybe there are things in the past that has happend so you think that you need to be in this relationship, or that you deserve it. You need to find these things out. YOU can't change HIM he has the problem, the only thing YOU CAN do is help YOURSELF!

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