Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

Eaglet gave this response on 4/22/2000:

My aunt is in a simular situation. I feel for you. First of all, have you reported any of this? It sounds like he needs more than just his family involved, he has major problems. You need to get away from him and keep away. Have you tried a restraining order? Went to the police or anything like that? I agree that he needs help, but it shouldn't come from you. I think that the police should be involved, do you have any women centers that could help you protect yourself?

Eaglet gave this follow-up answer on 4/22/2000:

I remember that in my aunt and uncles case, his threats of suicide where ploys to get her back, when that didn't work he threatend to kill her and the kids, and different things. I was able to get her help and protection If I knew where abouts you where, I would see if there was any place around there I could find to help you.

Just please protect yourself in anyway you can, don't have contact with him, and again, get agencys involved to protect you.

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