Anonymous asked this question on 4/19/2000:

Is it ever o.k. to have someone hit you? I know it is a stupid question but it's like I know certain things are going to piss my boyfriend off but sometimes I feel like I should be able to do whatever I want. I know that if I talk back or cuss at him that he might slap me in my mouth but sometimes I still do it.Does that make since? And the other stupid part is have the time I find myself saying sorry for him hitting me. I'm not stupid, actully I'm a straigt A college student. I even tell myself that I'm not going to do anything to piss him off but sometimes I still do. Don't tell me to get away from him, because I love him and I feel lonely without him but I just want him to treat me better. I want him to stop yelling at me, I don't like being scared of my boyfriend and I hate that almost everyone knows that he has hit me before. But I do not want to loss him. I don't think he would ever hurt me hurt me. Maybe scare me leave a couple of marks but not kill me. I know it sounds stupid but I really do believe it's true. They say you can't change those who don't want to be changed so what can I do to make it right?

niki6 gave this response on 4/21/2000:

i was there.. i sounded like you, i'm sorry was all i said but i had a big mouth that got me into trouble, but sometimes i just had to say it because i was independant....i won't tell you to leave him, because only you will decide but i can tell you that i was just like you and i tried to make it better and it only got worse......slaps, pushes, turned to hits, hits brought marks..... marks became marks that i couldn't hide and at the end i believed "is this it?" "will this blow be the one that kills me?" since you don't want to hear the "L" word maybe if you can talk to him and get him to go with you to counseling, that's probably the only chance you two will have..... true love isn't suppose to hurt and you shouldn't have to apologize for being yourself......3 years later i still find that i say i'm sorry alot or flintch in fear, and i haven't lived with that for that long... i won't say the "L" word even though that's how i feel but i will say this: please becareful, and remember you don't deserve it and it isn't your fault..... sorry is just something to make him stop, it shouldn't have to be, i will pray for you and i wish you all the best and i really hope counseling helps and is the answer

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