Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

rainbowlady gave this response on 4/21/2000:

You need to get law enforcement involved. Being raped by an ex is not something that is acceptable. He needs to realize how seriously sick he is, and if you press charges against him, he may finally realize that. Outpatient is NOT gonna help because he thinks YOU are the problem. If YOU had not left, he would not be unhappy. Contact your local women's shelter and find out the options in your area. Find out how to file a protection from abuse order or a restraining order against him. That way, if he violates it, you can have him arrested. Maybe if he's arrested his family will realize the seriousness of the situation. You may end up being the bad guy for putting him through this but at least he'll know he has their support. YOu can't make them support him if they choose not to.

Please contact yoru local women's shelter ASAP.

Love and Light, Rainbowlady

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