Anonymous asked this question on 4/19/2000:
Is it ever o.k. to have someone hit you? I know it is a stupid question but it's like I know certain things are going to piss my boyfriend off but sometimes I feel like I should be able to do whatever I want. I know that if I talk back or cuss at him that he might slap me in my mouth but sometimes I still do it.Does that make since? And the other stupid part is have the time I find myself saying sorry for him hitting me. I'm not stupid, actully I'm a straigt A college student. I even tell myself that I'm not going to do anything to piss him off but sometimes I still do. Don't tell me to get away from him, because I love him and I feel lonely without him but I just want him to treat me better. I want him to stop yelling at me, I don't like being scared of my boyfriend and I hate that almost everyone knows that he has hit me before. But I do not want to loss him. I don't think he would ever hurt me hurt me. Maybe scare me leave a couple of marks but not kill me. I know it sounds stupid but I really do believe it's true. They say you can't change those who don't want to be changed so what can I do to make it right?
rainbowlady gave this response on 4/21/2000:
What your boyfriend is doing is abusive and it will only get worse. He does not love you, he loves the feeling he gets when he can control you and scare you. You are under the mistaken belief that his love will prevent you from killing you, but he doesn't love you. You don't hit people you love just because they cuss at you or voice their opinion. You need to contact your local women's shelter and speak to an intake worker or a counsellor. No one's gonna tell you what to do: that's your right to decide. But it's also your right to have all the information available, even the stuff you don't want to consider....
Love and Light, Rainbowlady
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