Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

Help4U1 gave this response on 4/20/2000:

Hi,

I really am very sorry for what you have gone through and are still going through.

You said he has been outpatient a couple of times. What he really needs is something very long term in terms of treatment if he is willing to do this. It would be wonderful if his family would help but he has to be the one who wants to get it for himself.

He is extremely dangerous to you and any other people he may become attached to. I would definately consider a restraining order against him and if they become aware of his dangerous behavior they may be able to get him commited to a mental health facility and hopefully they will be able to provide him with long term treatment to help him.

It would be great if he would go on his own but he sounds very unstable and sometimes drastic measure have to taken to save these people.

I wish you the very best as you are dealing with a very difficult situation. You are doing what you can but please do not put yourself in any further danger.

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