Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

myra4 gave this response on 4/20/2000:

Hard as it may seem, people don't die of broken hearts. This guy really believes he can't live without you, but he can and will, IF YOU LET HIM! You are letting your memories of the good times cloud your judgement and thats why you are finding it difficult to take a hard line with him. He has won you over before with this emotional blackmail and if you let him again he will only get better at it. Whether he threatens suicide or not you already know you cant live with this guy, you've given him his last chance over and over, now its your turn. You have to make some distance between you. He can never truly get over you and on with his life, if you keep letting him think there is still the smallest chance you will go back to him and how it was. It is very sad I know, but it is over.

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