Anonymous asked this question on 4/20/2000:

My ex-husband refuses to let me get on with my life. He was emotionally abusive while we were married but became physically abusive after I left. He has seen Dr's and been an out patient a couple of times since we seperated but he still can not accept the fact that I left. He has threatened suicide a couple of times and has stalked, beaten, raped and taped me over the last year. I want his family to get involved and try to help him because I believe that he feels like no one loves him and by his family not getting involved it is just making him more desperate to try to keep me. He wants to be loved more than anything else I think that is why he won't let go. He thinks everyone he ever loved has left him so he thinks he can stop me. Do you know of any programs or ca you suggest what needs done?

tcsmpsi gave this response on 4/20/2000:

What kind of programs has he already tried? And how many? You know, there is a chance that a program isn't going to help him before he causes more serious harm. Is he receptive to getting help? Will he stick with it once he starts? To be honest with you, I think he needs to commit himself to a mental health clinic, because he is not safe in the condition he is in, to others, or to himself. Check with your area Mental Health Mental Retardation office. He needs immediate help, if you want to save him, yourself and/or others.

It would be much better if he would commit himself. If he won't, then go to your district attorney's office and get a restraining order against him. If he breaks the restraining order, have him arrested. In his condition, it is highly unlikely they will keep him in a jail. They will take him to a mental clinic. I know this may sound a bit 'drastic', but you are talking about drastic behavior, and this takes drastic measures and not procrastinating. Please contact me and let me know something, ok? Michael (tcsmpsi)

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