Anonymous asked this question on 4/18/2000:

My boyfriend and father of my children likes to push me around when he gets angry.Do you think that this will escalate into something more violent and painful?

niki6 gave this response on 4/18/2000:

in my opinion, yes, most do. when my ex and i were dating,we argued alot, i didn't think anything about it, when i got pregnant, he became verbally abusive, a month before we got married, he slapped me, after 3 weeks into our marriage, he pushed alot when he got angry, maybe an occational slap, towards the end, i was afraid for my child's and my own life,over two and 1/2 years in my marriage, it escalated to beatings, every kind of abuse including sexual.. he began raping me daily and hurting so violently in bed, he checked the milage on the car when i'd go somewgere, set up booby traps if i left, lock me in the house, stalked me, acused me of cheating (found out he was) tied me up and left me there, hit me and bought roses, the cycle of violence hit, bring flowers jewelry, or gifts promises that it won't happen again, explains that you just make him so angry some times, have a honeymoon period of no hitting or pushing, then an agruement comes, or he just snaps and gets angry for no apparent reason, then it begins again...a slap, a push, a hit,or any kindof abuse is abuse, please don't think that pushing won't escalate and try to ratioalize it," he only pushes me, and he only does it when he's angry, and i provoke him." you don't make him angry, you don't make him do anything, he chooses to do it, and most abusive behavior escalates, but reguardless if it does or doesn't you are still being abused, you need to find a way to leave.... it's hard but maybe the breaking point will be for your kids, they see it and will be affected by it, i left for my son,no ones deserves to be abused, please get out before it does escalate... if you need anything please ask i willhelp you anyway i can... been there, done it and survived that

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