huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

Patti_Ja gave this response on 4/18/2000:

First of all run like hell...do not do this to yourself...the cycle of domestic violence is well documented and you are now in what is known as the Honeymoon phase...it will not last and it will get worse...if not stopped you could end up dead...accidental death during beatings make you just as dead as if he meant to kill you...I have been there and no matter how much it hurts to walk away from the tears and the gifts...it is deadly to stay...do you really hate yourself so much to do this even one more time...by the time I left I had a broken hand and whiplash...facial contusions and a concussion...but without counseling to take care of why I was there in the first place I ended up with the same type of relationship two more times...Today I know for a fact that I do not deserve to be hit, screamed at, called names, have my hair pulled or stalked or threatened...I am worth more than that

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