huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

niki6 gave this response on 4/17/2000:

FROM EXPERIENCE... ONCE AN ABUSER ALWAYS AN ABUSER, THE CRYING TACTIC WAS A CONTROL THING, SAW IT LOTS... MY EX TOLD ME HE WOULD NEVER HIT OR HURT ME AGAIN, THE SAME NIGHT I GOT THROWN UP AGAINIST THE FRIDGE... 3TIMES A CHARM? HOW ABOUT 3 STRIKES YOU'RE OUT!! YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT AND HE WILL HIT AGAIN, THEY MOST OFTEN DO, I GOT ROSES EVERYTIMES HE SAID I'M SORRY AND I'LL NEVER DO IT AGAIN, THE HARDER THE ABUSE THE BIGGER THE BOUQUET... IF YOU NEED A SHOULDER OR HAVE ANOTHER QUESTION, I'M HERE

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