Anonymous asked this question on 4/15/2000:
As a child from ages 4 to 6 I can remember my grandfather crawling on me and from there I've blocked it out. I guss I'm afraid of remembering what he actually did to me. I was almost raped by a family friend at 9 years old. When I was around 7 or 8 years old my aunt made me have sex with her. When I was 11 years old my uncle fondled me, made me take baths with him, made me drink liquor, made me look at playboy magazines, and he wanted to take pictures of me nude. He would take me riding with him and his friends. I wouldn't remember any thing till the next morning at home in my bed. I didn't tell any one is because back in those days noone would have believed me. I totally respected these people and looked up to them like they were my second parents. I'm now 35 years old and I'm not sure who I am anymore. My husband and I can't get along to well anymore because I want come to his every beckon call. My attitude toward men now is just that an attitude. My husband knows about all this but doesn't think it should affect my life now. I've tried counseling. They didn't seem to help me. I can't afford a counselor because of their outragous fees. What makes me so mad is now when I see one of them eveyting is okand should be forgotten. How should I try to get my life back together? I think if I get some of this sorted out my life with my family will get back to normal. Can you help? What would you suggest I do?, As a child from ages 4 to 6 I can remember my grandfather crawling on me and from there I've blocked it out. I guss I'm afraid of remembering what he actually did to me. I was almost raped by a family friend at 9 years old. When I was around 7 or 8 years old my aunt made me have sex with her. When I was 11 years old my uncle fondled me, made me take baths with him, made me drink liquor, made me look at playboy magazines, and he wanted to take pictures of me nude. He would take me riding with him and his friends. I wouldn't remember any thing till the next morning at home in my bed. I didn't tell any one is because back in those days noone would have believed me. I totally respected these people and looked up to them like they were my second parents. I'm now 35 years old and I'm not sure who I am anymore. My husband and I can't get along to well anymore because I want come to his every beckon call. My attitude toward men now is just that an attitude. My husband knows about all this but doesn't think it should affect my life now. I've tried counseling. They didn't seem to help me. I can't afford a counselor because of their outragous fees. What makes me so mad is now when I see one of them eveyting is okand should be forgotten. How should I try to get my life back together? I think if I get some of this sorted out my life with my family will get back to normal. Can you help? What would you suggest I do?
blue_eyes_33 gave this response on 4/16/2000:
I hate to say it but you have to go back to counseling in order for you to deal with the demons. You may want to try and find out if there is a local community mental health center in your area because they charge you on a sliding scale. My husband was making 7.50 an hour and I only had to pay 2.00 a session. I also would like to mention thata there are no statue of limitation on the molestation of a child. Did you theapist report this to the police when you told about it in your sessions? By law they are mandated to report it. Your husband is wrong about saying it shouldn`t be affecting you now. It carries over into your adult life and it does affect your intamate relationships. My neices step - father molested her and she is now 22 and has may problems stemming from what he did. You won`t be able to get through this on your own, you need to go to counseling and it may take a long time but once you confront and deal with EVERYTHING that happened to you as a child you will continue to be whee you are at right now. Let me know if I can help you at all.
BLUE_EYES_33 (noreen)
There are support groups you can join that can also help you. Call your local mental health agency and ask them about the support groups in your area and usually they are FREE.
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