huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

sp0yldbrat gave this response on 4/15/2000:

Well Vivian, some people say "third time's the charm" but in this case I wouldn't go with that advise.He knows now that he can get away with it because he has done it before and you go right back to him.He feels power now, almost like he has control of you.Another saying not to be confused with is "if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours,if it doesn't it never was" You can love him all you want but don't let love be so blind that you won't be able to see it until it's too late for you.You need to put yourself first and think about what your future would be like with him.He may promise and promise, but that's because he knows that if you leave him, he will no longer have control over you.If this is the third time... I think his promise is an empty one,all it is is words.Sorry to tell you this, but i think you are in the early stages of being brainwashed by him. Well for your sake, I hope you make the right desicion. Always listen to your heart, it will never steer you wrong.

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