huey_vivian asked this question on 4/13/2000:

okay he's my question i left my boyfiend for two weeks stright and then one day me and my friend was in the his car the friends car and he was crying and saying that he would never hit me angain then he left me but he did not want anybody elese he wanted just me in his life but i went back to him the third time around what should i do should i learn to trust him and think things will be okay this time or what?????????????

Artemidoros gave this response on 4/15/2000:

Dear Viviane, What people do differs from what people say and whar prople think is not alays hat they could do. In your couple's case it seems to me that ups and downs is the rule... There are certainly things that bring you close one another and at the same tima pull you aay. Whatever your boyfriend has no right to hit you. It shos lack of respect to you as a person and is contrary toa all moral principles and to law. I think that both of you should see a counsellor and start to ask yourselves some serious questions about why things do sometimes go so bad between you. Of course this doesn't mean that such a serious thing as violence and abuse can be forgotten or forgiven... Good Luck!

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