Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

Phoenixguy2000 gave this response on 4/14/2000:

Thank goodness he's only your boyfriend! Get rid of the bum! It sounds like he is using you for your money. People buy others presents because they want to, not because they are talked into it by their partner. If you resent buying him things when he asks, you need to tell him unequivically, "NO!". Let him know how you feel about this, and why. If he is the right kind of guy, he'll get the message--quick! If you continue to do this, I can only assume that his company is more important to you than the fact that he asks you to buy him things. Are you sure you want to be "paying" for anyone's company? I suggest you leave this "kid" int the "candy store".