capntom asked this question on 4/3/2000:

Evening Xperts,I was just wondering, it appears to me that there seems to be a large segment of the people who ask us questions are women with abusive boyfriends or husbands. My question is why do women insist in staying in abusive enviroments. My job during the day is working in a Salvation Army Shelter as the director of security with A daily flow of 1100 clients, it boggles my mind when i watch these women get tormented by their mates, Yet they stay and take it

sunny18603 gave this response on 4/11/2000:

Hi i can only tell you from my past experiences, why i stayed in 3 very abusive relationships, some longer then others but i'm here to say first i'm glad i married none of them first good move in each abusive relationship,but why did i stay so long and allow my self to be abused and for my children to live it to? well first of all i come from a fatherless home my mother she wasn't ready to be a mother either, life was very unhappy for me growing up,i missed having that fatherly figure growing up and from what i rem. of my father growing up he did abuse his wifes he did drink and run aroundon his wifes,point being you tend to go after the only manly love you know.

sunny18603 gave this follow-up answer on 4/11/2000:

i'm not saying my father was abusing me physically i don't rem my dad really hitting his girls, i rem. him abuseing and being unfaithful to his wifes.i'm saying this was the only kind of love i knew and was use to.It made me unhappy but that was normal love,because in some ways my dad was a pretty cool husband too.but i grew up finally after years of spousal abuse in my life and new there is better love , better men and faithful men a man that will really love me, not beat me because he's so drunk, or a man to cheat on me because of his pigish male ego i wanted a man who is in love and doesn't just say the word loveso for my self i only stayed while i could have been killed a couple times and my daughter did not deserve the abuse of watching their be abused so i choose a new path of life abuse is not for me know more so now i feel i choose man for me.

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