Anonymous asked this question on 4/6/2000:
When does critisim become emotional, verbal, and/or mental abuse? I'm a grown woman with a mother who I can't stand. I'ma trim 5'6" 115. I gained 15 last year and was berated constantly about how I was getting fat. I'm still a size 4 she's been a 16 or more my whole life. I'm lazy and unmotivated although I work 60 hours a week at a profesional job. I'm a failure and disappointment even though I'm a high earner and have a graduate degree. She's never had a job in her life, had to go to summer school to finish high school and has literally slept her life away. I've never been good enough, it's suprising I have any self esteem at all. My other sister has moved across country to get away from her and rarely calls. I live in the same town and run into her often, but not on purpose. She bad mouths me to my relatives who have the impression I'm a bum. Is this abuse?
sunny18603 gave this response on 4/11/2000:
Yes mam i would diffently say abuse of all kinds, who do they think they are?,I use to really love my mom, as much as i hated her she was the best mother in the world, when i got old enough (which was about 34 yrs.old) i realized why am i loving someone who has put her daughter in life threatening situations because she couldn't handle her drink,or always drank to much to the point she would allow her best friend acuse one of my mom's daughters of having something with my moms boyfriend , driving home so drunk wanting her daughters dead and the scare of death she put in us not even believing her 10 yr. old daughter, to the point it was just as bad when we got home we use to get beat for nothing,she wasn't our friend at least not mine i hate my mother she is well for given for her nasty past she gave her girls but she is the biggest hypicrite i ever met, honor thy mother and father good one huh? i learned a year that commandment does not apply when they do not act the part love is just a wordto me it's actions that speak louder, you don't need to feel bad for anything she should be ashamed of herselfe but her judgement day will be here to, be happy for who you are and what you are after all she raised and by mis treating you she's only saying what kind of woman she really is my advice mark her off respect is a 2 way street Amen
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