Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

yrswthrt gave this response on 4/8/2000:

If you dont want him asking you to get him something dont tell him that you are going shopping. tell him that you are going to the store for bread...and yes you will bring him a soda home (LOL) then go off, by yourself, and do the shopping you would like. A relationship isnt based around material items, it is based off of the inmaterial ones. If he wants to use blackmail in order to get you to buy things for him, then I would simply say that he doesnt have to do anything for you. If you have $50 bucks to spend on him...then you have more than enough money to take yourself out to eat. Dont let him run your life, that is your job. Stand up for your rights and if he loves you, then he will respect them...if not then he isnt worth the heartache anyway.

Good luck and if you have any questions email me.

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