Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

Liveagain gave this response on 4/7/2000:

I can understand your feelings. There is a difference in someone buying someone something because they want to and be asked. I might have misunderstood what you said, but I gather you don't buy yourself that much that often. It also appears to me that your boyfriend is the type of person who isn't going to do anything for you without expecting something in return. To me that's the warning signs of a very selfcentered person. If you truly like someone or love them, you do things for them out of love and respect, not because you expect something in return. If this situation doesn't improve, it could cause major problems down the road. You need to take a long look at this situation and decide if it's really the one for you.