Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

jellygator gave this response on 4/6/2000:

This sounds like he feels a need to "test" your love and thinks that if you give up things for yourself, that you are showing love for him.

I think you're entitled to set your own priorities, and so is he. If he wants something and you say, "I plan on getting something for myself with this," and he comes back with "Well, I did such-and-such" you can remind him that while you care about him, you also care about yourself, and that you'll choose how to spend your money just as he can choose how to spend his.