capntom asked this question on 4/5/2000:

capntom asked this question on 4/5/2000: Sir I need to know why You decided to insult me on this panel for asking question?

snowbird gave this response on 4/5/2000:

Capntom

If I had insulted you, you would have known it throughly. I am a PTSD service connected Nam vet. I used as much tact as I could to control my anger and frustration with the likes of you and your kind.

As you will see in the followup answer which I let my wife write, I was being nice.

It is an insult to my dignity to share the title of expert with someone like you and others. Myself and others are on this site to try to help others to the best of our ability. However, when I read some of the degrading things that you write in the form of counseling to those in need of help, I feel that what others have told me is true. That is that this site is rigged and everyone here is out for their own personal glory, not to help any one else except their friends.

I have spent my 51 years trying to help others in whatever way I could. I am now totally disabled because of the stress it put on my life.

I was asked to come to this site by someone I highly respect, because of my abilities to deal with most aspects of counseling. If you have taken the time to read some of my answers, maybe you can understand my abilities and learn about counseling. I am not saying that I am something special, just that I know what I am doing. I have been highly trained to do it.

You have your expertise in mechanical things. My espertise is in human relations and health care. I feel that you and others should stay in your fields and I will stay out of yours.

Respectfully

Paul

capntom asked this follow-up question on 4/5/2000:

I don't understand why your so mad at my question, it wasn't meant to harm, i'm just trying to understand this problem,I trying to help these people, which is what i do everyday. i'm not trying fight with you, what do you mean by the likes of me, you don't even know me

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yourfriend gave this response on 4/6/2000:

I feel that the annoyance,and impatience you have working with others is truly uncalled for. Yes, you have much training as I do, but when you are trained , you were done so to not judge, to not be arrogant, and to help others. The person who asked you about why, is just doing what this site is for and that is exactly to ask questions, so we can help to make sense to them. Not everyone who works in these fields, especially the volunteers may not be able to understand, and they need to ask in order for their own understanding. I feel that the question was a simple mis understanding, and the rudeness was uncalled for. When you are working with others from all walks of life, you must have an open mind. I too was a victim, and now an advocate and a volunteer, and many times it takes living through it, or seeing loved ones deal with such horrible happenings to fully understand, and then even then, some still will ask why. For the ones who don't understand, and want to try to, how else will they learn , if they do not ask us why, or what.

This kind of question is often asked, and that my sir is why our police departments, and courts are being trained in this field. As they to ask why, "Why does a victim call the police, to not follow through" or "Why does she continue to take him back, so to have to call us again" . That is not an unusual question, And with all due respect to your feelings, and thoughts. Not to mention the training you say you have, you should know that.

Remember I to was once a victim, and when I am asked why, I try to answer that. I do not consider it degrading or blaming me, I consider the question to be the ignorance of the public whom have not had training or understanding to this.

I am sorry that your health is bad, but please, be good to others as they are asking questions, so we can help to make them understand.

I to work in the medical field, volunteer and am a victim in my past. I know the pain your wife goes through. But we need to answer Why to the ones who truly do not understand...

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