capntom asked this question on 4/3/2000:

Evening Xperts,I was just wondering, it appears to me that there seems to be a large segment of the people who ask us questions are women with abusive boyfriends or husbands. My question is why do women insist in staying in abusive enviroments. My job during the day is working in a Salvation Army Shelter as the director of security with A daily flow of 1100 clients, it boggles my mind when i watch these women get tormented by their mates, Yet they stay and take it

Manassah gave this response on 4/6/2000:

Hello, Captain, you have a legitamate question. the fact is thisA) the stronghold of fear. If you are knowledgeable about the bible which I pray you are, you would then understand how fear binds those into captivity. Look at the story of david and Goliath. Even saul was willing to see his people be destroyed and held captive because of his perception of the beast. No one woould dare move let alone make a stand against him. Also the spirit of deception is at work here. When you are a victim you begin believe the lies that somehow you deserved it, you believe it is your fault like a whooped puppy dog, you walk overly submissive around with your tial between your legs, believing there is no other way more often than not youwere raised inthis environment so the violence and abuse is aprt of what you would call your natural environment. You can not hate the offenders. Remember Jesus died for the least of these. The victims as well as the offenders need Christ's redemptive power. only he can heal nad restore. trust me I have been both victim and abuser.

Manassah

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