Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

Manassah gave this response on 4/6/2000:

Hello, It sounds to me that you have someone with a severe security complex. Something inside him need to be the center of it all. this can be very dangerous. He has some deep hurts inside that from what I have read he trying to find a way to relieve the internal conflict via monentary gain. You need to go with your gut. in your spirit you have red flags all over the place. you need to listen to yourself. Of ten times roots of neglet,anger,control....willmanifest itself this way. it can manifest itself in other more violent/manipulative ways. You can not help him. please listen you can not help him! please reflect now on what you should do. I recommend maybe stepping back to assess your relationship. it will only escalate into graver things, please be careful. Listen to your " check" There is only one that can save you boy friend and that is Jesus Christ. i am not trying to preach to you, but it is the truth. I fyou want to give feedback or what ever. I am here. Please though listen to yourself, sometimes you are your best counselor. Manassah

The average rating for this answer is 2.