snowbird asked this question on 4/5/2000:

Sir,

Maybe you should make sure to publish all your answers to the abuse and violence questions right up front and let others see just how you answers questions.

I realize that you don't feel that you have enough knowledge about domestic violence and abuse and want to know more. But, when you classify yourself as an expert in an area, you should be able to answer the questions yourself and not depend on someone else to give you advice about the subject. If you want to learn more about the subject, you read what other people are saying in their responses.

My wife and I both have answered your question and, therefore, maybe everyone should read all the messages between you and us.

I never said that I was upset at everyone's answers. In fact, I feel that most of the people in this area, as well as most of the areas I am associated with are good honest, upfront people who know what they are dealing with and do a good job of it.

I spend part of my time on this site reading and rating other people's answers. In that way, I gain insight into areas that I may not have had before.

I invited any one and every one to go to my pages and read my answers and rate them as they see fit. I would appreciate any input I can get into how I am doing, positive or negative. I would welcome it.

Capntom, you started making this a public and personal confrontation.

I was trying to get my point across too.

I hope everyone reads the entire conversation that you and my wife and I had.

Blessings to all.

Paul snowbirdhays@netscape.net

miaphillips gave this response on 4/5/2000:

Dear Snowbird and Capntom,

I hope that you both feel that you've gotten everything out into the open. Please don't let this escalate any further, you have both raised very good points, but please let it be now.

It's very easy to get personal and agro, and I can understand how it may have gotten out of hand, however - it doesn't matter who's right or who's wrong, because as far as I'm concerned it's really not an issue here.

I have read both your answers from previous questions, and I think that all things aside, you both have very valuable insights and advice to offer to the people that we (experts) are trying to help.

I would hate to think that this 'feud' or whatever it is would mean that A) A person in need of help will be put off asking any of us for help - or B) One or both of you ended up not bothering to give your important advice.

I am a new expert and I feel quite arrogant in writing this letter to you both (as I am usually a quiet person), but for both your sakes and for the sake of the people we are trying to help, please let this stop now.

Yours sincerely Mia

The average rating for this answer is 5.

snowbird rated this answer a 5.

Point well taken.