Anonymous asked this question on 4/5/2000:

I have a boyfriend, we have been together a year now, and I love him very much, but there is just something I am not sure about, this is a problem, let me explain, Everytime that I have money, I like to buy myself something nice, but when he knows this he asks for something too, he will pick something like a child in a candy store, I tell him I was going to buy me something with it, he says"It is only $50, besides I gave you money last time to spend, and I'm taking you to dinner. But for some reason I always have to give money. I hate this, what can I do??? Any help will be appreciated.

Serenitey gave this response on 4/5/2000:

He shouldn't make you feel guilty for buying just yourself something. He sounds like he is trying to be controlling, and it seems like he knows that if you have to buy him something nice, you are less likely to buy it for yourself. I would just tell him that you like to buy just yourself something once in awhile, and if you are going to give him something you would like it to be a surprise. He shouldn't expect anything just because he is taking you out to dinner or giving you money. He shouldn't care if you buy him something or not....I definitely would quit giving him money. It definitely sounds like a control issue, and you need to talk with him about it.

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